Whoa there! You CANNOT go there, my friend. Ouch, that would hurt. Oh-h-h you are just too big to do that. That is disgusting. What about the poop! Anyone ever hear some of these phrases when the subject of anal sex comes up? Maybe you have even used one or two or have your own that you applied to the situation. Probably these and many more are put forth in defense of the little round orifice that could. Well most of these phrase or exclamations are said when someone just is scared, misinformed or have been taught that this is not the way humans have sex. Bull! There are all kinds of reasons someone can come up with for not doing it. However, the best reason to do it is just that you want to experience that special kind of excitement that only anal sex can bring.

Maybe you have never done it and maybe you never will but that is not to say that thousands upon thousands of humans take part in anal sex everyday. Whether with a partner or by means of self-manipulation, people make use of this form of pleasure attainment mostly because they like it (I know it definitely works to give me pleasure whenever I can get it). You may already agree with me or maybe you will if you try it out a little and see if you to can expand your horizons enough to include this fantastically fun way to achieve the ultimate sex goal. The big O!

Those that are closed minded will never even consider the possibility of anal sex and will miss out on that special excitement. Those that think enough about their pleasure to maybe want to experience it have many ways to explore this pleasure zone without any stigma or complications. Just follow some very basic guidelines.

There are three basic things you must always remember if you want to enjoy the anal portal, even occasionally: communication, lubrication, and relaxation. Unless you are having a self fulfilling session, which is probably the best way to start if you have never done it before, COMMUNICATE with your partner before any action is attempted. Do not expect your partner to just go along with your desires and wants as if they could read your mind. While I always advocate communication between partners in the sex department, this case could end a relationship instead of enhancing it. Usually not the desired result.

Lubrication can be very important also. As with blow jobs and other avenues of pleasure, lubrication can provide stimulation or even dulling effects that can help out tremendously with some. Others may just enjoy the fun applying the stuff.

Relaxation is a must for pleasurable anal sex. You can not tighten up and expect a pleasurable experience. Even when you are about to reach climax tightening can cause a pain that can bring a sudden halt to everything. Remember to relax at entry by just breathing slowly and concentrate on the pleasurable feeling. Once action is underway you are usually feeling so good you will not want to tense up. Again, communication can help here as soft words from your partner during entry can help when starting insertion.

Learning to relax is also a good reason to attempt some self-sessions before partner sessions. Sex toys can help in learning although you can even start out with a finger (or two or three). Just remember the lubrication step through saliva, soap (like in the shower or tub), or commercially available lubes and such. Many are available and depending on your desires can be flavored or not.

Some good toys to think about would be the anal dildos now widely available through your favorite adult toy sellers, like www.LeatherDelight.com, or anal beads, or butt plugs. These three are the most popular and are designed for what you want. As you gain experience, you should definitely try out one of the celebrity cock copies or the fantastic nJoy Stainless Steels or the Nobessence products. Even the wireless vibrating bullets that respond to your music on your iPod can be an experience and a half.

Well hope this helps you have some fun and maybe explore an avenue that you though was forbidden to you. It is not and should not be.

Enjoy!