When you and she are together and pleasure is the entree on menu you need to be prepared. Believe it or not, guys and gals, most women take longer than men do to reach a climax. If they cum at the same time as a man and the man has not spent at least 10 to 20 minutes on her alone then she is just being nice (for those of you that fail to notice the implication, she is faking it). If you are a woman and your partner is a woman this article really is not for you as you should already know this stuff. You must spend time on her and the time needs to be on things that get her really excited. Just chewing on her breast a little and an occasional finger flick at the clit does not fill the bill. While most guys can get excited by just mentioning sex (I think I remember some study years ago said guys think of sex every 15 seconds, humm) the more time you spend on her, the more you will eventually benefit. I promise.

Now that I have the lecture (sorry) out of the way, I should mention some ways to help you achieve the goal of partner satisfaction. As the title says, I want to talk about toys you can use in this endeavor. There are many components to a romantic filled time with your partner but all that I am concerned with here is that you pick and use a toy or toy that work on the particular her you are with and that you know how to use it (them).

There are probably more adult toys available now than there are cars on the road. Actually too many to even mention. To make it easier on making a choice for you, just remember there are basically just 4 categories of toys to choose from when you are starting out (well, actually only three if you do not want to try a little of the darker side stuff, some of my favorites - smile, smile, wink, wink). These are the ever popular Dildo, the humming and shaking Vibrators, the fun filled Butt products (usually just plugs but beads are really fun too, oh, I keep getting myself in the picture, sorry) and finally, for some of the more adventurous, I include the accessories and adornments that goes with the darker side (yeah right) BDSM scene. BTW, not all BDSM is dark and mysterious. Some is just playful and only slightly naughty.

So on with the info. There are many types of dildos available. Some are simple conical plastic things, some are simple conical things that vibrate (these are used more like vibrators than dildos but the combo is a great invention), some are shaped like cocks, some are shaped like imaginary things and some may be an exact cast of a porn star cock. Whichever kind you select, they are all used in similar ways as the basic (does not vibrate or wiggle by itself) Dildo. The Dildo is ever popular because it is simple, easy to use, and usually easy to clean, not to mention easy to stash somewhere private. If she has the urge to make use of this you should know you do not just plunge it in and pump it. There are techniques and approaches that must be learned to make the best use of this toy. Everyone seems to have their own methods but try some of the following and you should be well on your way.

Maybe use a little lube (make sure you choose the appropriate lube that is compatible with the type of material the dildo is made of) and apply it sparingly to the dildo or her genitalia. Maybe start at her stomach and slowly move the dildo down between her legs. Move it down one thigh, gently, gently. Move it back up to her mound and down the other thigh. Barely touching the skin move the dildo around her mound and then between her lips and legs. Up and down, Up and down. Do the other side. Repeat these maneuvers several times. Do not attempt penetration until she appears that she really wants it.

When she is ready, gently spread her lips and rub the dildo around her clit, repeat this action several times then slowly and gently start to push the tip of the dildo into her vagina. Slowly pull the dildo back out then slowly back in. Keep the penetration depth small at this point. Just use the tip in and out, in and out, slowly and gently, slowly and gently.

She should be very wet all by herself at this time. If she is not wet, then maybe slip some lube into the action, but only a little and make sure it is edible (maybe I did not mention that before. Make sure any lube you use in any sexual adventure is edible. Your mouth is eventually going to wind up where the lube has been applied, hopefully.). Pull the dildo out and rub it around her clit in little circles then push it back into her vagina, a little deeper this time, In and out slowly but building the speed up as her reactions dictate (maybe she is saying faster, faster, harder, harder but keep the pace a steady slow to medium at this stage – she will respond).

With some women you may have to keep her hands out of the action because she may want to grab the dildo and take over but do not let this happen.

Again, slowly pull the dildo out and circle her clit a few times, then reinsert and go deeper and deeper with each thrust until you reach the limit of penetration. If you have chosen the correct dildo, the limit will be to the hilt. If not, then to the extent that she is not having pain. Each woman has her own threshold for these things and you need to learn what that is for the woman you are with at the time.

If you follow these procedures, it should not be long before she achieves a real climax. And, by the way, if you are not ready to shoot your wad by this time you should just go to the bathhouse and get a little from the guy in the showers (which is not looked down upon by this writer, just not a good thing for this sexual adventure.).

Well, I have taken up enough of your time this time around. Just make sure to communicate with your partner to know what they want to try BEFORE springing thing on them. You can find out what your partner is willing to try in many ways but never try to use a butt plug or anal beads or any toy if she has a real dislike for things like that. Believe it or not there are even some people that will not even consider the use of a toy (shame on them). Boy are they missing out! Do not be one of those people! You may regret it later on in life when all you really have left are the memories of sexual adventures.

Enjoy!